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With many legal situations come a number of myths or misconceptions surrounding the issue. Divorce is one of those situations and many people are aware of various myths about the divorce process, life after it and what you can possibly do to prevent it.

Common Divorce Myths

1. Divorces are always ugly, stressful and destructive. In most cases, a couple’s divorce brings about a lot of negative repercussions. However, some couples do not get along during or following a divorce, while others stay cordial friends after they separate from one another. Every divorce case is different and individual. Every outcome depends on the husband and wife’s previous relationship, the issues involved with the divorce and how they handle the divorce process.
2. Women always get custody of the child or children following a divorce. Years ago this was always the case with couples’ divorce outcomes. Today, however, each parent has equal rights and custody is decided based on the child’s overall well-being, the parent’s relationship with that child, each parent’s financial stability and many other factors.
3. If your spouse cheats on you, it will really help you in the divorce process. This depends on the state. This is true in states without no-fault grounds and those who see adultery as an accepted ground for divorce. Some states, however, do not see adultery as a reason for divorce.
4. Having a child together will prevent a divorce and help a couple improve their marital situation. Many couples believe that having a child will somehow help their marriage. However, bringing a child into the world does not necessarily improve a couple’s martial situation and divorces happen to couples with children every day.
5. A couple that lives together prior to marriage has a better chance of staying together. Contrary to what most people think, a number of studies have found that couples who live together before they get married have a higher chance of eventually divorcing.

6. A period of unhappiness means divorce is probably the best answer. All marriages have their ups and downs and divorce is not always a solution for every couple.

This article has been provided by the Bergen County Divorce Lawyers of Aretsky & Aretsky, (201) 445-5856, http://www.aretsky-law.com.